As a female enthusiast of the interactive arts, especially as one who is competitive and strives to best her opponents, i've seen my fair share of unfair remarks against my gender. These remarks have veried between the slightly rude but unintentional to straight-up threats of rape (no,really). They mostly lie somewhere in the middle.
This veries from region to region, of course, and here in Washington a lot of people are generally proud of "acceptance" and "equality" in everyday matters. Pot is legal and so are gay marriages. Seattle is a center for many gay rights movements as well as feminism and all that. And that's cool and everything, but i'm honestly a very self-involved person and not incredibly active outsid the few communities imma part of.
One of these is the Smash community. Overall, i found that girl players, while still rare, are relatively well-treated nowadays and this only seems to be improving. But theres still a long ways to go. It's still annoying to find a girl pop up on a Twitch stream and have the chat immediately explode with "omg its a grill!! she's so hot! like a 7/10!!" It's even more annoying when they say, "oh she's actually pretty good" when she's getting rekt and is obviously a noob. And of course its most annoying when the chat gets angry and turns against her and starts calling her an attention whore or worse...
Milktea, who you might know from the Smash Documentary, is one of my favorite women in gaming because I find in her a lot of parallels to myself. Like me, she grew up being bullied for being Asian, and she struggled with her shyness. The biggest thing Milktea and i have in common, of course, is our love for gaming. particularly, our love for Smash. Also just like her,i used to despise other gaming girls (or any nerd-girl) for the same reason some male gamers would hate me: I would just think they only did it for the attention.
Milktea, aka Lilian Chen, has become a prominent spokesperson for women in gaming. I especially love her non-hostile approach. She doesn't aim to accuse and shame male gamers for some of their past actions. Her key to raising awareness is empathy, which is a quality i've always strived to develop in myself.
Here's a recent TEDTalk by Lilian Chen where she talks about everything I just said but better. Just pretend she's me!
I know this forum is dominated by male gamers, but i'd love to hear your opinion on the matter in general, if you have one. I don't mean to stir up some heated debate on sexism and repression of women and all that. I'm not a Social Justice Warrior. In fact, they're the very reason i left Tumblr.
No, the point i want to make is that i'm better than all of you. wait... nope. that's not it.
Okay, the point I want to make is simply to raise a lil bit of awareness. I doubt any of you have been completely oblivious to this issue, but as male gamers, holy shit do you guys have it easy. I've found acceptence and even made good friends through gaming nowadays, but... still to this day, at nearly every tournament, convention, comic book store or hobby shop I set foot in, I am awkwardly approached, stared at, patronized, assaulted with questions, put-down, insulted, idolized or villainized (that would be in order of least to worst).
I joke a lot at the fact that i'm a girl gamer. I poke fun at myself a lot sometimes because if I make other people aware that, "hey, she's a grill!" it'll help develop the idea that, "hey, she's just a nerd like me!" Other times, I will admit, I do like the attention. But whenever someone questions my nerd-cred, my love of the subject, it can be more than frustrating.
Thankfully, i think i've found a nice lil community here that doesn't yet seem to have any problems with my gender. Which is amazing, really. Great job guys. Of course, the anonimity of the internet helps a bunch, but you'd be surprised at how many angry tweens on forums who've never met me irl sent me hostile PMs because say their girlfriend since kindergarten just dumped him and now all girls are evil and so its all my fault. ● ﹏☉ But thats actually a hilarious example. There were much worse ones...
I hope i'm not sendin the wrong message here. this is my first real topic on Chozo Sanctuary, and I don't want to seem like some preachy, pissed-off feminist. I'm not a fantastic writer so i only hope this makes sense. Really, i just watched that TEDtalk and it stirred up a desire to say something about it.
Just food for thought. You may feed me back if you wish. Lazyy: signing out.
Edited by LazyyDogg, 27 May 2015 - 09:39 AM.